What do you need?
Recently a group of women were asked this question. I loved the answers and even added my need in there. What needs do you have and do any of the below ring true for you too!
HAVE – I feel like I constantly need things. Striving for more. – Our true need is to be content with what God has entrusted us with.
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.
What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask.
Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
BEAUTY – I have the need to feel beautiful or feel like others think I’m beautiful – Forgetting that I am beautiful from the inside which makes me beautiful on the outside.
Song of Solomon 4:7
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.
1 Peter 3:3-4
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
APPRECIATION – I have the need to feel appreciated. Running constantly for others. – I need to remember that all the appreciation that I need is the fulfillment from doing for others as Christ did.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.
The Lord repay you for what you have done, and a full reward be given you by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge!”
1 Timothy 2:1-2
First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way.
1 Thessalonians 5:12-13
We ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves.
INTIMACY – I have the need for intimacy, a simple touch, hug, quiet whisper of “Love you”. Just knowing someone deeply cares. – Sometimes we’re looking for that intimacy from those who just don’t have it to give as we need it but if we spend more time with God in prayers and grow in intimacy with Him, even sharing our need for it here on earth, He will provide it.
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
1 John 4:7-8
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.
For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.
No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.
REST – I need rest. In the craziness of this world, we are in charge of how much we rest. – We have to learn how to say “NO” or at least be realistic about what we should say “YES” to. There are times when only the Lord can give us rest in our soul.
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
And he said, “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”
Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices!
For I will satisfy the weary soul, and every languishing soul I will replenish.”
“Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!”
BALANCE – I need Balance! In this world there is anything but balance. The world tells me that I need to “have” but Jesus tells me to be content and he will give me what I need. The world tells me that I need to be beautiful but Jesus tells me that it’s not what’s on the outside but that He is shining on the inside. The world tells me that I need “power” to make it but Jesus tells me that He is my power and as long as I trust in him, follow his instructions, seek his guidance that I will make it. I have to live in this world but I don’t find my Balance in this world, I find it in Jesus.
Lord help me to be content. To not worry about what I have or don’t have. Help me to stop putting pressure on myself and those I love to meet the need to have. I know Lord that You knit me to be perfect in Your sight and I ask for You to help me be comfortable in who I am, knowing that You don’t make Junk! Lord give me a heart to freely give of myself without the need to get back. Freely giving as Your son gave for me. I pray Lord that I will take the time needed to draw closer to You. Allowing You to fill that space in my soul that is missing intimacy. I have others around me but that is a space that only you can fill. Lord, give me the courage to say “NO”, help me to be aware of my limitations and be okay with taking time for me sometimes. Help me to be bold with my Yes’ , giving my best because I’m not stretched too far with all the things I should have said No to. Ultimately even in my sometimes craziness, help me to find rest in You. Help me to find the Balance I need in my daily walk so that I can be who I need to be with You. Amen!