To place blame on others just to take the blame off you! That is usually what an excuse is. Obviously there are reasons for our behaviors, particularly if when we were young and our experiences were traumatic, but there comes a time, yes a time, for us to stop with the excuses.
We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16
In my recovery, I have had to face up to many things. Things that were done by my hands and things that weren’t. Hurtful and harmful things! But there comes a time in our recovery that we must speak it, face it and let it go. Once you have let it go there is no more room for excuses. To grow and mature as an adult this will be key to our recovery.
Five Minute Friday on Monday night
The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”
When I think of silence, I think of one particular time in my life when I know, I just knew I had to be silent. It was a time during my 2nd marriage was falling apart. My 1st marriage had failed for many reasons and I was determined that my second one would not. But I was also determined that this go around I was not going to be a door mat. No one was going to run over me again. Hence, part of the reason my 2nd was failing.
I was done! And God spoke to me, saying be quiet, I will fight for you. And he did. I literally closed my mouth for 1 year and He rebuilt a marriage. That was 12 years ago and we are better than ever. I now have a voice but without that time of silence, I wouldn’t be where I am and God wouldn’t have had the glory. He has given me many other opportunities to be silent and every time He comes out on top!