To place blame on others just to take the blame off you! That is usually what an excuse is. Obviously there are reasons for our behaviors, particularly if when we were young and our experiences were traumatic, but there comes a time, yes a time, for us to stop with the excuses.
We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16
In my recovery, I have had to face up to many things. Things that were done by my hands and things that weren’t. Hurtful and harmful things! But there comes a time in our recovery that we must speak it, face it and let it go. Once you have let it go there is no more room for excuses. To grow and mature as an adult this will be key to our recovery.